Wonderful Wise Reader:

I closed out 2017 nursing a very bruised and tender heart. 

A relationship with a colleague and mentor shifted unexpectedly and left me feeling confused, hurt and humiliated.

In the past, my first reaction would be to try to find the positive in the situation and then put the whole thing behind me.  Not the worst strategy but I noticed that I was never able to completely move forward when challenges and conflicts happened.  Even though I was trying to look on the positive side, I would catch myself stewing over what happened and thinking of all the things I should have done differently, getting defensive in my imaginary conversations with the imaginary judgers that I was sure were still thinking about the situation too. 

Clearly something wasn’t working!

This time, instead of trying to numb or avoid the pain by looking “on the bright side” I let myself fully feel the hurt, the confusion, the humiliation. 

It was hard.  It sucked actually.  But I stayed with the feelings – no judging, no defending, no wishing it could be different.

After several days, something changed.  I began to see another possibility.  I began to see myself as wise, experienced and capable.  I could see my role in the relationship and where I had not been taking responsibility for my experience and where I had not been standing in my full 50% of the relationship. 

As I stayed with the uncomfortable feelings and realizations I felt myself opening to a bigger picture of where I needed to be.  And then some interesting opportunities literally arrived in my email box! 

One opportunity was an Intuitive Storytelling Course.  It was an 8-week course facilitated by a very gifted storyteller and teacher who lives in the UK. After the first 10 minutes of the first class I could feel my heart beginning to mend.  Every week we practice telling stories that come completely from our intuition.  With every story I share, I feel more and more nourished.  My heart has been deeply healed by the simple joy of learning to tell stories in this way and I am reminded again how letting myself truly feel the truth of my feelings can lead me to places that I would never have imagined. 

Does your heart need healing?  Do you know what nourishes your heart?  Are you able to listen to your heart and be with the deep feelings that it keeps stuffed away?  What do you need to start caring for your heart in a more loving and honest way?

Instead of closing off my heart because of the pain I let the pain open my heart wider and, in the expansion, I found healing.

Love,

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